“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Confidence – a word most of us is afraid of. Are we only aware of our imperfections and focused on details which others wouldn’t even notice? Are we scared of meeting new people because we think we are boring? Are we quiet most of the time when we are accompanied, because we have the tendency to think we aren’t entertaining enough and have nothing smart to say? It’s a devastating fact that 85% of people have this way of thinking and don’t feel self-confident, whatsoever. They don’t believe in themselves and their abilities and talents.
In almost every part of our lives, confidence is of a huge importance. Confident people are like magnets – they tend to attract attention, trust and respect of those around them. They encourage and motivate others to start to believe in themselves. They become role models. Who wouldn’t like to have a friend, colleague or boss who is self-confident and believe they can? We all want to be surrounded by confident people who make us feel that we can do it. The first thing we should do is become aware of our strengths and weaknesses. By admitting our flaws and realizing our abilities and talents will help us a lot with improving ourselves and boosting our ego.
There might be a thin line between self-confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is when people have an extremely high opinion about themselves. Nobody likes people who “know everything” and don’t listen to others, because they think they are the best and nobody can do like them. Even though at first sight they might seem super confident, for some number of people, arrogance represents a mask by which they cover their own insecurities. Unfortunately, these type of people can never be honest towards others, because they always pretend to be someone who they are not. By having our arrogance on, we’ll lose many friends, great opportunities and harm our reputation.
On the other hand, low self-esteem is a completely opposite extreme – our lack of confidence. People with low self-esteem tend to see things from a negative perspective. They stand on their own path of improving themselves and becoming much better and more successful. That doesn’t mean they are bad people; they are simply modest and dislike to show off. Even though they have low self-esteem, they can be very conscientious and do their job very well. However, there is a very important question: If we don’t believe in ourselves, who will?